"Baby K" is Hilary's foster baby and Apollo's little buddy. Hilary brought Baby K home from the hosptial at 3 days old…she's now more than six months old. I have more adorable photos of Baby K's face but I'm not allowed to post them on my blog…Trust me, she's cute.
Baby K will never be reunited with her birth parents…it just isn't possible. Hilary and her husband are longing to keep her as their own, but since they are "just" the foster parents (who have fed, changed, nurtured and loved almost since birth) they have no say in the matter. Social workers and judges get to decide on Baby K's future. She may be moved in with relatives she's never met. She may be moved somewhere else. Who knows?
The only thing Baby K knows is Hilary and her family. That they love her. That she's attached to them. No matter what biology, judges or social workers say, Hilary's family is her family.
And we can only hope and pray that the judge sees that as well…
This kills me! I read Hilary’s blog as well and to take that baby away seems inhumane to both family and baby.
Praying for them.
Lara
If baby K becomes legally free for adoption, don’t the foster parents have first choice to adopt? That is how it works in my state.
We have fostered 15 children over a 6 year period. When any of the children have become legally free, they ask us first if we want to adopt.
That has happened 3 times. Our answer has been “OF COURSE!!” all 3 times!
I am a foster parent and I totally understand Hilary’s painful love. For that is what it is. Love that is so painful because of the fear that’s attached to it. As a mommy we love these children everyday as our own, wondering if today we will get ‘that call’ that will rip our heart into pieces as the child is taken from us. And what about the child’s heart? I won’t get started! I have cried many, many tears saying goodbye lots of times and I swear my heart just can’t take anymore. And yet then there’s another child with a need for a little love and of course, how can we say no? We have 4 bio children, and right now 2 foster children. One foster boy has been with us for almost 8 years! The other, who’s just 15 months now, for 10 months. Her life has still yet to be decided by those who ‘know’ best. We just pray. What else can we do?
I love your blog. It’s the first I check every day. We will never meet in this life time I’m sure, but I’d like you to know I really appreciate you. I think you and Chuck are so loving and giving, and have an amazing family.
Sweet babies! Also praying for Hilary’s family and this sweet baby girl.
I can’t imagine the emotional trauma of having a little one removed from your home… not to mention how difficult it would be for the child.
My heart goes out to foster parents. May the Lord grant grace as they minister to His little lambs!!
I love their little matching green hats! What a cute best buds photo. I sure hope Hilary’s family gets to adopt her.
This is the main reason I have never put my name down for fostering. It would just be too much for me to cope with. I do so hope things work out for Baby K and they let her stay.
Saying a prayer right now.
I dont know the particulars of her case because they are confidential. I do know she wont return to her birth parents and in our state relatives (no matter how distant) get priority. That is who they will seek as an adoptive placement first. Even if shes never met them…
Yes, but there should be a timelimit: as in a month or two. It is absurd (and terrible for a child) for them to attach to one family and be ripped away. Esp if after 6mths and before 18mths. I mean, that’s just ridiculous.
Not to even mention the parents (foster) and siblings…
We have just agreed to take on a sibling group, 2 girls and a boy, ages 1, 2, and 3. We have 2 bio boys. This is a first for all, they have just been removed, this is our 1st placement. We signed up for foster to adopt, for now, these guys are foster only .We are scared on so many levels, but it will be what it will be. I love your blog and any blogs on foster/adoption. They are a huge help!